“But letting go is not the same
As pushing someone else away“
There is an emotion to which we are most of us adduced,
But it is one which I refuse to boost.
It is harrowing, browbeating, and brutal,
Besides which it is futile.
Because of it sleepy men go sleepless,
Because of it, for all I know lyrical canaries and nightingales go peepless;
Hungry men lose their appetites;
Warm acrobats perspire coldly in their dapper tights;
Eligible bachelors enter ballrooms less eligibly,
And stoics talk to themselves loudly but fortunately also unintelligibly.
Land of Goshen,
What an easily dispensable emotion!
I am referring, of course,
Remorse is a violent dyspepsia of the mind,
But it is very difficult to treat because it cannot even be defined,
Because everything is not gold that glisters and everything is not a tear that glistens,
And one man’s remorse is another man’s reminiscence,
So the truth is that as far as improving the world its concerned, remorse is a duffer,
Because the wrong people suffer,
Because the very fact that they suffer from remorse proves they are innocuous.
Yes, indeed, it is the man remorse passes over completely who is the virulent streptococcuous.
Do you think that when Nero threw a martyr to the lions remorse enveloped him like an affinity?
Why, the only remorse in the whole Colosseum was felt by the martyr who was reproaching himself for having dozed through the sermon on the second Sunday after Trinity.
So I think remorse ought to stop biting the consciences that feed it,
And I think the Communist Party ought to work out some plan for taking it away from those who have it and giving it to those who need it
Ogden Nash – I’m a stranger here myself
Today I’d like to talk about gray rights.
No, that was not a typo. I do mean the color gray, and our right, I shall even say our duty, as humanity, to see things in that miraculous yet so often neglected color, as opposed to the binary, black-and-white, world view so many of us seem to cling to.
(Note that the witty “gray rights” wordplay isn’t the fruit of my own creativity but that of a clever person in the comments section of a Youtube video)
George Carlin and Tim Minchin are at the top of my list of favorite comedians of all time, and it’s not just the fact that they tackle serious issues in their comedy; dozens of their peers have done and continue to do so. It’s the fact that every now and again, they have come up with little nuggets of wisdom that were their very own. I cannot recall the number of times I found myself knowingly pointing at my screen screaming “exactly ! that’s what I’ve been saying all this time, thank you!”. This happened when Carlin spoke about national pride or the sanctity of life. But on a more related note, it also happened when I first heard Tim Minchin’s “The fence” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGErC6QQdoc)
“The fence” beautifully destroys moral absolutism, much to my happiness.
Doesn’t really matter if you find you can’t see which grass is greener, chances are it’s neither
Moral absolutism seems to define the way an alarmingly high number of people perceive things around them, from the smallest personal matters to the bigger more serious issues concerning current affairs and world politics. We seem to be wired that way. Gray areas make us uncomfortable, so whenever we have to take a stance toward something, we run for the tranquilizing safety of pre-defined “clans”. We put things and people into categories. As humans, we feel the need to be pro-things or anti-things. Things come to us in packages. For every idea, for every opinion, there’s a label, an entire ideology we vow allegiance to. We’re feminists, or liberals, or conservatives, or anarchists, et cetera. It’s much simpler that way because it means we don’t have to put too much thought into it. Maybe it’s intellectual laziness. Or maybe it’s fear. Maybe we’re scared of a world where things aren’t quite as simple, where right and wrong aren’t pre-defined for us, where our enemies aren’t very clear and our allies even less.
This world is big and it’s scary and its politics are complicated. I can only applaud anyone who strives to understand them because political indifference in a world where pretty much every move we make is political is the most irresponsible of attitudes. However, while we should try our best to understand the world around us, who “rules” it, what’s happening in it, we should all have the humility to know that there are many things we’re not aware of, either because top secret information is a very real thing and has nothing to do with absurd conspiracy theories, or simply because unless we devote a lifetime to researching every detail of how every government runs its internal and foreign affairs, it’s practically impossible to know everything that’s going on, let alone analyze it so meticulously that we’re able to come up with an accurate list of who’s the good guy and who’s the bad guy. What’s always true, however, is that every government, every corporation, every entity is trying to serve its own interests and whether the actions they take in doing so happen to match your moral convictions is merely a coincidence.
I’ll throw in my opinion, however biased it may be. We should all steer clear of pre-defined “moral packages” as much as we possibly can. It’s not easy, as life shapes our beliefs and personalities in more ways than one can imagine. We should try and question everything. Every single thing. And base our judgement solely on the most universal of values. We might find ourselves disagreeing with people on all sides of the political spectrum, but it’s okay.
That’s actually one last thing I wanted to talk about. If you ever read your Facebook news feed, or any comments section of any video or any article, you’ll come to the realization that people nowadays seem to hate those who have a different opinion as to how we should cure the evils of the world more than those actually perpetrating those evils. If we started hating injustice and hunger and diseases and poverty as much as we hate those who don’t agree with us as to how we should fight them, we might actually do some progress. Maybe sometimes we should remember that, at the end of the day, we’re all fighting for pretty much the same things.
I will further quote Mr Minchin, who, when giving an address to the students of an Australian university (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yoEezZD71sc), imparted this wonderful piece of wisdom on them :
We must think critically, and not just about the ideas of others. Be hard on your beliefs. Take them out onto the verandah and beat them with a cricket bat. Be intellectually rigorous. Identify your biases, your prejudices, your privilege. Most of society’s arguments are kept alive by a failure to acknowledge nuance. We tend to generate false dichotomies, then try to argue one point using two entirely different sets of assumptions, like two tennis players trying to win a match by hitting beautifully executed shots from either end of separate tennis courts.
On this thoughtful note, I wish you all many nuanced reflections and unbiased opinions.
Get over your Hill and see
What you find there
With grace in your heart
And flowers in your hair
You could’ve taken some time away
Instead of a long drop
Instead of a leap of faith
Ten years I never spoke your name
Now it feels good to say that
You’re my friend again
I discovered Wait But Why when some guy I follow on Facebook (The reason why I’m using Twitter lingo when talking about my Facebook relationship with him is because he is one of those Facebook staff people who wear a beard, live in California and have a bright blue tick next to their name and we all know that you’re not friends with these people, you’re just happy you get to follow them) shared the viral “Why Generation Y Yuppies are Unhappy” article.
To be honest when clicking that article, I was expecting yet another pseudo-sociological blog where the author condescendingly analyzes
our generation’s every move while singling him/her-self out of the homogeneous bunch of self-absorbed out of touch yuppies that we are.
And sure enough in many ways it is. But it’s not just that, and that’s precisely why I’ve been a loyal follower of WbW for some time now. I even took it a step further and subscribed to their newsletter, which is not a commitment I make with most websites/blogs (lucky them).
WaitButWhy is very Oatmeal-y in many ways (the illustrations in both websites are amazingly unaesthetic), but WbW actually writes long elaborate articles, and most importantly, the topics it tackles are a lot more diverse. Clicking your way through the blog, you’ll find yourself switching from a long captivating article about the Fermi Paradox to a quicker peek into the lives of huge historical figures like Alexander the Great or Cleopatra.
The link above is a worryingly accurate article describing ten types of friendships you’ll find yourself a part of at some point in your life and I’ve related to so many of them I’m starting to question every relationship I’ve ever had.